If you’ve never had anal sex before, it’s normal to feel a little trepidation. While this type of sex isn’t for everyone, it can be incredibly erotic and intimate. If you’re interested in exploring the pleasures of anal, here are some tips for first-timers.
1. Talk to your partner.
Communication is the most important part of any type of sex, and the first step should be to have a conversation with your partner. There are many ways to broach the subject but talking about it during your regular sexual play may feel most natural. Alternatively, bringing up the topic outside the bedroom might be a good way to ensure your partner doesn’t feel pressured. Either way, it’s best to be both clear about what you’d like, and receptive to hearing about your partner’s desires and boundaries.
2. Get cleaned up.
Anal sex can be a bit messy. One way to minimize this is to wait for a few hours after eating and to make sure you’ve had a bowel movement before getting started. You’ll also want to make sure that you’re nice and clean. Some people suggest an enema (or anal douche) before starting, but it isn’t necessary if you’re not comfortable.
3. Start slow.
If this is your first time, start very slowly to make sure the experience is enjoyable. Indulge in some foreplay, paying more attention to your backside than you normally would. Have your partner start stimulating the anus with a finger, and make sure you’re totally ready before advancing to other types of penetration.
4. Don’t forget the lube.
Unlike a vagina, the anus is not self-lubricating. This means that no matter how much you and your partner are enjoying yourselves, you’ll need to use a high-quality lubricant to avoid painful friction. Silicone-based lubes last longer than water-based ones, but they shouldn’t be used with silicone toys.
Any new sexual act is going to feel awkward at first. Just be sure to be very vocal about what you like and don’t like and encourage your partner to do the same. Most importantly, have fun and don’t be afraid to laugh if something doesn’t work. It’s just sex.
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